Now lets get one thing straight here. This big wedding day Shabanza is not just about your stunning sexy lady right? Yea us blokes need to get in on some of the action too. So many times I come across a groom whose nerves make him as jumpy as can be and then during the ceremony they turn to a sobing mess. Lucky you guys don’t wear mascara.
I think what happens to us boys is a last minute panic of nerves. You see your gorgeous lady has been focussed on her wedding day since she was 4. Yep that cute flower girl swirling in her dress is fixated on one day becoming a bride in a pretty dress. . . And from here on she longs for that day.
But for us boys its different. Sure we have a soft side, but hey thats unmanly to show that. We are more interested in the honey moon, sport, surfing, footy yep the list goes on. Suddenly before you know it the wedding day is here and your emotionally prepared.
So lads here are my tips for getting you through the day as smoothly as possible:
1/ Everyone is here for you both
To ease your nerves remember everyone is here for you and they really don’t care about that spot on your face. Actually they are probably more interested in the bride. So just try to chill and tell your self…”This is my wedding… and I’m gonna lap it up … these are my friends and they want to have a good time with me.” Taking this attitude can ease the emotional burden you place on yourself.
2/ Help your bride to be
Yes I know flower arrangements and all that fuzzy stuff can be a bit non bloke like. But the more help you pitch in with, the more relaxed you are going to feel about things being under control. Get involved with the logistics planning. Organising the music, MC, wedding venue etc.
3/ Task delegation
As bold as it might sound a wedding is a project with many things to organise so its a good idea to put together a plan together. Make a list of jobs and deadlines and delegate. Breaking all those jobs down into tasks and ticking off as you complete them will make your wedding planning job a lot easier.
4/ Find a wedding Photographer
You can get the search going for a wedding photographer. Select 3 whose work you like and make a appointment to see them. Help plan the days timings with the photographer. Research key points to ask of a wedding photographer.
5/ Organise the cars
Blokes are generally interested in cars, so do some research here and make some enquiries. Ask to see referrals.
6/ Wedding Theme format
Help decide on the wedding celebration format. Is it going to be a formal sit down or a cocktail evening. A formal celebration will require seating planning and a more formal structure. If you prefer a more relaxed approach then provide a cocktail theme. This generally encourages a more relaxed theme and you will usually experience higher noise levels as guests mingle with who they want to.
Make a short list of theme music, research bands & styles you both like.
Have the groomsmen involved in the planning process. Bounce ideas off them. Brain storm ideas as a gift for them.
9/ Suit hire
Have the boys research suit hire or dress styles. Use wedding magazines, Pinterest and bridal websites for ideas. Consider purchasing a suit which you can wear on the wedding day and for work afterwards
It wont be long before you realise that everyone wants to share their words of wisdom so encourage them to get involved and put forward their ideas.
Well I could go on but I can see your eyes glaze over so lets quit right here and lets hope there are a few useful tips to help keep you in the good books. Who knows you might change careers and become a wedding planner.